Domestic Violence

Domestic violence is not always easy to identify, as it can involve different behaviours, that can be subtle and physical violence is not always involved. It can take the form of physical, psychological or emotional abuse. The violence or abuse can be actual or threatened and can happen once every so often or on a regular basis.

Domestic violence is a pattern of controlling and/or aggressive behaviours from one towards another existing in the context of an intimate relationship, these relationships can be with a family member, carer, partner, or ex-partner.

Abusive and controlling behaviours can include, but are not limited to:

• Unpredictable or frightening behaviour, making you feel as if you’re walking on eggshells, feelings of dread
• Threats of and actual violence
• Jealousy, possessiveness, isolation
• Humiliating, criticising or verbally abusing you, playing mind games
• Stalking and harassment
• Controlling or monitoring finances
• Destroying property or belongings
• Sexual violence, rape, revenge porn, degrading acts
• ‘Honour’ based violence, forced marriage, female genital mutilation

How Counselling & Psychotherapy Can Help You

Counselling provides a safe, supportive place to explore and work through your experiences of abuse.

• Counselling is a two-way relationship, in which the counsellor listens to whatever you want to say, in confidence and without making judgements
• It is a safe environment to explore your issues, become aware of your choices and build on the inner resources you already have
• This could be an issue from your past, present or anything that concerns you about the future
• Counselling will help you to break away from past abusive relationships and work towards living in a way which is more satisfactory and fulfilling for you. It can also help you to build up your self-esteem
• Counselling and Psychotherapy can support you to find solutions that are right for you
• Psychotherapy tends to be more intensive than counselling, and may continue for a longer period of time, as issues are explored in more depth